The Four Words That Changed My Life

By Beth B.

Beth B. at the Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure®

I never get tired of telling my story. Four words. 

It all started on October 26, 2011 —10 days after my 30th high school reunion. I went for my annual exam. Ten minutes into the visit, my gynecologist said, “You have a lump.” Four words. Thirty minutes later, I was having a mammogram a month before my regularly scheduled one and an ultrasound. An hour later, the technician took me into a room and put me on the phone with my doctor, who said, “We found something suspicious.” Four words. They told me to find a surgeon and schedule a biopsy as soon as possible. Six days later, I had a biopsy, and on November 4, 2011, my world turned upside down. I was 48 years old when I heard “You have breast cancer.” Four words.  

Part of my story involves how and where I received my diagnosis. I am a lobbyist for a financial services company, and the day after my biopsy, I traveled to Washington, D.C., on a business trip. As every cancer patient knows, the thing that you crave the most is normalcy. While I didn’t yet know that I was a cancer patient, I craved normalcy. The thought of sitting at home and waiting for the results was unbearable to me. I was in a meeting room with about 75 people when my cellphone started ringing, and I could see it was the surgeon’s office. I made it out to the lobby where the diagnosis was delivered. It was as if all the air had left the building. All I wanted to do was to get back to my room to call my Mom. I held it together until she picked up the phone, and I burst into tears. I felt like a child who falls off her bike and doesn’t cry until she gets home and runs straight into her mother’s arms. 

I was diagnosed with invasive ductal carcinoma, stage 2B. I had a lumpectomy a week before Thanksgiving in 2011. My margins were not clean, and I had node involvement. I chose to have a single mastectomy with immediate reconstruction, and I have never regretted that decision. The surgery was four days before Christmas. I had eight rounds of chemo. I lost all of my hair and started reconstruction during chemo. I finished treatment on May 2, 2012 and had reconstructive surgery later that summer with the final surgery that fall. I am currently taking Letrozole after five years of Tamoxifen. I still have neuropathy in my feet, but it is gone from my hands. Now my four words are “You are a survivor.” 

I have met the most incredible people on this journey. I am proud to be a survivor, and I feel blessed every day. My fellow survivor thrivers are the bravest people I have ever met. They give me hope and courage every day. I hit the 9-year survivorship mark last November. Some days, it feels like yesterday, and other days, it feels like a lifetime ago. Some days, I scratch and claw my way through, but most days I just feel incredibly lucky. 

We must continue to fund the research that will eventually eradicate this monster. Together we can, and will, lift the veil on this horrendous disease. Together, we are stronger than cancer. Life changes in an instant. I really have no other words. I will NEVER stop telling my story and I will NEVER stop fighting for a cure. 

Here are my final four words to you — GO LIVE YOUR LIFE! 

3-Day Preparation You Can Do Right NOW

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The 3-Day might seem like a long way away. After all, the New England 3-Day isn’t until August and the San Diego 3-Day isn’t until November! Time does fly though, and we know that all of you are busy busy bees. Your 3-Day weekend will be here before you know it, so let’s make the most of every day! Even now, there is so much you can be doing to prepare for your 60-mile journey. Let’s get started!

Sign up!

This one might seem like a no-brainer, but it never hurts to remind everyone! The sooner you sign up for the 3-Day, the sooner you can put all your other plans into motion. Registering is your first step towards an amazing 60-mile journey that will take you further than any other in the fight against breast cancer. Commit 3 days in 2020. This is the perfect time to sign up because we extended our Early Bird Discount until February 7! Take $20 off your 2020 3-Day registration — no code needed — and join us in the fight against breast cancer. Let’s go!

Reach out to your coaches

After you sign up, your immediate first step should be reaching out to your 3-Day coach. She is the ultimate resource for everything you could ever want to know about the 3-Day. The coaches are available by phone, email or even Facebook, and they will be just who you need to make sure you start your 3-Day journey on the right foot.

Meet them on Facebook to get started:

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Start fundraising

There are so many ways to fundraise for the 3-Day so starting early just gives you time to try them all! Start by using our resources and links to set you up for success, then challenge yourself to complete all 101 of these exciting fundraising ideas!

You can also check our blog posts for more fundraising ideas. These are some of our favorites:

Make your training plan

We have both 24-week and 16-week training plans that will help you pace out your training so that you can start slow and manage your steps. These plans can be printed out or found on our training app. You can also chat with your coach to customize these plans to you specifically!

We will also post local training walks and other events on our website. Get together with your fellow 3-Dayers to start moving and making progress towards your training goals NOW so that you’ll be fully prepared come this summer or fall.

Talk it up

Though you will never be alone on the 3-Day, the more friends and family you can bring along with you…the more fun you’ll have! Invite your pals on a training walk or to an info meeting to bring them into the 3-Day. They might not sign up right away, but don’t worry, you have time! Remember? ?

Make your plans and take your steps now! The 3-Day will be here soon after all.

How the 3-Day Can Help Kickstart Your New Year’s Resolutions

People say it takes at least 21 days of doing something to form a habit. However, it’s also about that time that people start to slide away from the big goals they set or challenges they made for themselves. We’re coming to the end of the first month of 2020, and if your excitement over your New Year’s Resolution is starting to fade…you aren’t alone!

If you’re signed up for the 3-Day, you’ve already made strides in the right direction (even if you don’t know it)! The 3-Day can help you achieve your other 2020 goals in a variety of ways. While you train and fundraise for the big 60-mile weekend, you can also gain inspiration and motivation for additional resolutions. Here’s how…

You’ll have both long- and short-term goals

Every step of training and fundraising is an important one. That means you’ll have to set shorter term goals for yourself before you make it to the 3-Day. Your long-term goal will be to raise $2,300 (or more!) but your short-term goals will be to get that first donation, raise $100, then $500, etc. By setting weekly or monthly goals, you’ll have a feeling of accomplishment when you hit those milestones or light a fire of motivation to hit the next objective. Having short term goals allows you to track your progress and keep you in line towards hitting your ultimate aim.

You’ll be held accountable

Those short-term goals, coach check-ins, training walks and team events will help you stay accountable. Share your 3-Day goals, as well as your other resolutions, with your 3-Day friends and teammates. They will help hold you accountable and cheer you on all year long!

You’ll have a community

Whether you sign up for the 3-Day on your own, join with a friend, or become part of an existing team, you are NEVER alone on the 3-Day. You’ll find new friends and be a part of a larger new family just by participating. There are 3-Dayers who form cross-country friendships, go on team trips, and make the 3-Day part of their everyday lives. This new community will provide constant support and joy as you conquer all your goals.

You’ll have FUN while you make progress

Not all goal setting is fun. It can seem tedious or slow-going. But the 3-Day is always full of joy! So, no matter how hard you’re working, so long as you’re working alongside your 3-Day family, you’ll be having fun along the way.

What are your resolutions for 2020? Tell us in the comments so we can start creating a community of goal-setting this year! And if you haven’t signed up for the 3-Day, make today your day!