The 3-Day and the “Bravest Scared Mom”: Heather’s Story

Heather B. at the 2025 Susan G. Komen Boston 3-Day.

The 2025 Susan G. Komen Boston 3-Day® was Heather B.’s first breast cancer event, and it was unlike anything she had ever experienced. Over the course of three days, she pushed herself physically and mentally, formed new friendships and discovered just how strong she had become. 

But just a few years earlier, Heather’s life looked very different. 

She was 39, living at home on lockdown with two young children during the coronavirus pandemic, when she received a phone call that changed everything: “Heather, you have breast cancer.” 

There’s no way to prepare for that kind of news. Heather was terrified, but through that fear, she made a promise to herself. 

“I was going to be the bravest scared mom ever,” she said. 

Connecting to Others During Treatment 

Heather went through 16 rounds of chemotherapy, 28 sessions of radiation therapy, a double mastectomy and a full hysterectomy. She wanted to be as proactive as possible in her treatment. Just six months earlier, her children had lost their grandmother to cancer. 

“I was determined they would not lose their mom, too,” she said. 

The pandemic made an already overwhelming journey even harder. Heather’s care team required her to come alone for her medical appointments and treatments. No visitors. No hand to hold. No comfort of familiar faces. At times, she felt isolated, so she turned to online communities for connection.  

“I found others going through the same thing—and those relationships quickly became my lifeline,” she said. 

Heather B. and her friends at the 2025 Susan G. Komen Boston 3-Day.

Finding Purpose 

Somewhere in the middle of all the chaos that comes with a life-altering diagnosis, Heather found something unexpected: purpose. By supporting others diagnosed with breast cancer, sharing what she learned through her diagnosis and “simply listening,” she found healing in unexpected ways. 

In June, Heather celebrated five years as a survivor. She said people often question why she remains involved with the breast cancer community since she has already “beaten” cancer.  Heather said it’s simply because, “the journey doesn’t end when treatment does.” It carries lifelong impacts including physical and emotional side effects, scars, surgeries, anxiety, hormonal changes, fear and fatigue.  

“So, until there’s a cure, I’ll keep showing up— for myself, for my kids and for everyone sitting in a chemo chair feeling scared and uncertain, just like I did,” Heather added.  

For Heather, showing up began at her first 3-Day walk in Boston, and will continue at the 2027 Tampa Bay 3-Day, where she has plans to walk with her sister. For this “brave” mom, the strength that once carried her through breast cancer now carries her forward to offer hope to others. 

 

Walking Through the 3-Day Storm: Strength After Breast Cancer

Nisha at the San Diego 3-Day standing at the finish line

I was diagnosed with HER2-positive invasive ductal carcinoma at 42, and after chemotherapy and radiation my body felt decades older than my actual age. There was a point when it was hard to walk and I needed to use a wheelchair for several weeks. I quickly learned it was going to be hard to feel safe in my body again, and how difficult it would be to get back to what I once was: strong.  

Two years into my breast cancer survivorship, I’m still working every day to regain strength and confidence. I reduced my stress, changed my eating habits, prioritized sleep and began practicing Pilates and exercising several times a week. I did all the things that helped me feel like the future is in my control. Some days it felt like enough, other days my body whispered that I could do more. So earlier this year, I decided to push myself even further than I ever imagined. I signed up for my first Susan G. Komen 3-Day® in San Diego. In November, I walked nearly 60 miles over the course of three days   in the middle of a powerful rainstorm. 

When I registered for the 3-Day, I was hesitant. As a very busy mom to three young kids, I wasn’t sure I could commit the time to walk 20 miles a day over three days, and I worried about meeting my fundraising minimum. But once I got started, I never looked back. It became my main goal for the year and I never lost focus.  

To my surprise, it didn’t take long for my family and friends to start donating. I shared my breast cancer experience on social media when I was diagnosed in 2022, so my personal network knew what I had been through. They saw me at my lowest and followed me through every stage of treatment and into survivorship. I reached and exceeded my goal three months before the 3-Day, which allowed me to focus even more on training. 

Knowing others believed in me made it impossible to ever give up. I trained whenever I could, and it quickly became a shared journey. I started my training walks six months before the San Diego 3-Day and remained consistent each week. I walked with my 72-year-old dad, who has been dedicated to fitness ever since I was a little girl. I walked with friends. When our sons were at football practice, we’d walk along the track. I walked through my neighborhood while my twin boys rode their bikes alongside me. Even though I registered as a solo walker without a designated team, the experience was anything but solo.  

When the 3-Day finally arrived, I felt ready  until the forecast showed a rainstorm. I knew the 60-mile challenge was going to be even harder than I expected. And it was. The first day was relatively easy for me. The energy was high and the weather was beautiful. I was prepared for the rain. I had layers of clothes, and my backpack was packed with everything I could possibly need for rain. I met so many longtime survivors who walked with me for miles here and there. By the time I completed Day 1, it had only started to sprinkle. I felt so great after racking up my first 20 miles. I enjoyed a good dinner at Crown Point Shores Park, followed by the Celebration of Champions  where all the top teams and fundraisers were celebrated for their fundraising achievements. 

Nisha at the end of Day 1 at the San Diego 3-2025.

Day was a completely different experience. When I woke early that morning and got onto the shuttle to the route, it was dark, cold and wet. Walkers were dressed in rain gear from head to toe. I had two pink ponchos, layers, a beanie and plastic coverings over my shoes.  

The rain was steady for hours. Walking through Ocean Beach was not fun at all. I tried so hard to avoid deep puddles until I had no choice. The streets were flooded. I powered through ankle-deep puddles, and slowly up Narragansett Hill. It was hard not to give up at that point. I was drenched and exhausted. But I kept reminding myself that I had been through harder days, and then I kept going.  

At some point that day, the flooding prompted a portion of the route to be closed. I walked most of the day alone. The stormy weather wasn’t the best way to talk to people along the route. I got overcome with emotion from time to time: inspired, fatigued and overwhelmed. I cried a few times, then regrouped and kept going. I kept telling myself that I could do it, that I had to do it, that I wanted to do it.  

The last section of Day 2 was brutal. The wind and rain were relentless along the bay. I remember clutching onto my poncho because it felt like it was going to get blown away. I was soaked. My tears mixed with rain drops as I clocked in my 16th mile for the second day.   

Once I sat down in the shuttle to go back to the hotel, my body shut down. I could barely walk and needed help getting down the steps to exit the bus. I was starving, but not able to walk around to get food at the hotel. I called the front desk for help, and they were nice enough to have the restaurant deliver a pretzel and grilled cheese to my room. I took a hot shower, massaged my legs and feet, took some medicine and napped for three hours.  

When I woke up, I went downstairs to the hotel ballroom. The 3-Day medical crew had set up inside and provided physical therapy. They worked on my calves and hip and treated the painful blisters on my toes. I was incredibly grateful. 

On Day 3, I woke up feeling surprisingly strong and ready. Along the Mission Boardwalk, I took out my phone and recorded video of the beautiful weather. I also Facetimed my husband and my three kids at home. I wish they could have been on the route with me, especially because they were with me every step of my breast cancer journey. It was amazing to share a little piece of the 3-Day with me on that call. As I walked, I reflected and listened to pieces of conversations happening around me. There were stories of loss, survival and thriving decades after diagnosis. It was heavy and beautiful all at once. 

Nisha on the last day of the 2025 Susan G. Komen 3-Day

As I crossed the bridge toward the final mile back to Crown Point Shores, a stunning double rainbow appeared over the bay. I couldn’t help but smile. It felt like a symbol of hope after hardship, much like my own journey with breast cancer.  

Crossing the Finish Line brought overwhelming relief and gratitude. I thanked my body for carrying me through. During the Closing Ceremony, I walked into the tent hand-in-hand with another survivor I had met along the route, standing shoulder to shoulder with other survivors as the 3-Day community applauded. 

A rainbow at the 2025 San Diego 3-Day.

When I exited the tent, my parents were there. They drove up that day from Los Angeles to surprise me. Their warm hug was exactly what I needed. 

Those three days in San Diego were tough, and I am processing a lot of it. The experience was truly life-changing for me, and I can’t wait to do it again. Since then, a lot of people have asked me about the 3-Day. I invite them to join me for a walk so I can tell them all about it. I will always be grateful to the 3-Day for giving me a special place to reconnect with my body. The challenge taught me to trust my body again. It reminded me of where breast cancer took me and shone a light on how far I’ve come. 

Embracing the Pink Bubble in the Midst of Grief

Erin P. walks the 3-Day for her mother, Bernadette.

This year, Erin P. experienced the kind of heartbreak most people can’t imagine —losing both of her parents just seven weeks apart. Her father passed away first, following years of health challenges, including cancer. Her mother, Bernadette, a two-time breast cancer survivor, died shortly after.  

In the midst of navigating her grief, Erin came across the Susan G. Komen 3-Day® and felt inspired to participate for the first time as a way to honor her mother’s strength and resilience amid the relentlessness of breast cancer. 

“My parents were fighters. They really were,” Erin said, tears falling from her eyes. “When I saw something about the 3-Day right after my mom died, I knew I wanted to do it.” 

Breast Cancer 

Bernadette died from metastatic breast cancer

To understand what led Erin to the 3-Day, you have to go back to 2017. That’s when Bernadette was first diagnosed with stage 0 breast cancer. She underwent a lumpectomy, followed by radiation therapy and oral chemotherapy medication. 

“After that, the doctors told my mom she was cancer-free, so we marched on with our lives and everything was going so well,” Erin recalled. 

Bernadette and her husband

 

During that time, Erin gave birth to her son, Thomas. He was her parents’ only grandson. But in 2021, Bernadette was diagnosed again, this time with stage 3 triple negative breast cancer. The treatment was grueling. Bernadette had a double mastectomy, more chemotherapy and another bout of radiation therapy which caused a painful wound. 

“The burn on her chest from the radiation started off as the size of a quarter, and it kept getting bigger,” Erin explained. “My dad had to do wound care for her, and she later needed a skin graft surgery.” 

Despite the physical toll, Erin and her parents moved from New York to Florida to be closer to her sister, who had recently gotten engaged. Erin said for a while, her mom seemed to be doing better. After completing treatment, her scans showed no signs of breast cancer.  

Bernadette and her husbandIn October 2023, Erin’s parents celebrated their 41st wedding anniversary, a milestone that reflected decades of devotion, love and shared medical challenges.

But their joy was short-lived. Soon after, Bernadette received more devastating news. Her breast cancer returned and had metastasized to her bones. Despite the diagnosis, Bernadette was able to spend two more holiday seasons with her family, as well as be at her daughter, Tara’s, wedding.

Erin P. and her family celebrating Christmas before her parents died.But earlier this year, both Bernadette and her husband’s health declined, and they were hospitalized at separate times. Erin and her sister were there for each of them. In a final, tender moment, Bernadette had the chance to say goodbye to her husband before he passed away. She followed seven weeks later.  

The 3-Day 

The weeks that followed were filled with heavy grief for Erin, but also reflection. She organized a beautiful memorial service where she handed out pink breast cancer awareness ribbons in honor of her mom.  

First-time walker Erin P. at the Denver 3-Day.

Then a few months later, she boarded a plane from Florida to the Denver 3-Day.  

“I went to the 3-Day with minimal expectations, no training. I just wanted to honor my mom, and my dad too,” Erin said. “I took the extra pink ribbons I had from the memorial, and I gave them to the volunteers, crew and walkers and I told them about my mom.” 

Despite a foot injury that prevented her from walking the full route, Erin was determined to finish. She walked as much as she could, and when she reached the final stretch, her son and husband were waiting to cheer her on.  

“I really wanted to make sure I finished for my mom.,” she said, “I took my son’s hand, and we crossed the finish line together. It was beautiful. I was so emotional thinking about my mom and my dad and everybody who has gone through breast cancer.”  

Erin P. was honored at the Denver 3-Day Celebration of Champions.

To Erin’s surprise, she was honored with the “Best Tug Your Heartstrings Story” award at the Denver 3-Day Celebration of Champions. She’s already fundraising and preparing to walk again, this time at the Tampa Bay 3-Day in 2027. 

“The Pink Bubble was overwhelming in the best way,” Erin said. “I got so many hugs from strangers who are part of this big, beautiful community. I’m just so glad I jumped into the 3-Day when I needed it most.”

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