October Pink Bubble Story of the Month: Rae J.

In 2008, Rae J.’s sorority sister-turned-best friend, Terry H., signed up for the Susan G. Komen 3-Day^® after seeing an advertisement on TV. Although she didn’t know anyone at the time who had been affected by breast cancer besides Rae’s mom, a 16-year survivor, Terry knew right away that she wanted to walk. She began raising money and recruiting others to join, but it wasn’t easy. “It was very intimidating to have to raise $2,300; asking people for money was new. It was even more intimidating when I explained we had to walk 60 miles; in fact, people said I was crazy,” she shared.

Ultimately, Terry raised the money and walked solo in D.C., crying at times when she found herself alone. However, in true Pink Bubble fashion, Terry made new connections and was so inspired that upon returning home she talked her friends into signing up, Rae included. In 2009, Team Keeping Abreast was born with five walkers and three crew members, including Terry’s dad and his wife, Terry and Rae’s husbands, Chris and Bob, Terry’s niece, her niece’s roommate, and Rae’s sister-in-law. That year, they began carrying a banner with them for each walk where they encouraged other participants to write the names of survivors and those who have been affected by breast cancer.

“We kept our traditions going from year to year: the banner, wearing team shirts on day three, holding up our fists in team pictures, and a shoe circle. The young girls in our team video are all now walkers who, back then, couldn’t wait to be able to participate. Rae’s daughters were first in 2016, when Cameron joined as a walker and Caroline joined the Youth Corps until she was old enough to walk. Next were Rae’s nieces, Abbey and Melanie who joined Youth Corps and are now walkers.”

Team Keeping Abreast walked every year until the Komen 3-Day was no longer offered in D.C. when they decided to crew in Philadelphia. Unsure of how to raise money and afford travel, they missed the following two years. Over time, they kept learning of more and more people who had been diagnosed and when Rae was diagnosed in December 2015, their team got their walking shoes back out and returned to Philadelphia in 2016. That year, they recruited another one of their sorority sisters from Sigma Sigma Sigma, Stacey and Rae’s sister, Dawn. “We walked again and that was the first time she was able to easily convince me to walk with them,” shared Dawn.

In 2016, Rae walked her sixth and final 3-Day^® as a Stage IV breast cancer thriver. She gave a speech at the Opening Ceremony, saying “I have walked the 3-Day five times in honor of my mom, a breast cancer survivor and in memory of those we have lost. Who would have thought it would happen to me? Yet here I am having been diagnosed this past December with Stage IV breast cancer. So, this year, I’m also walking for myself and continue to look for the cures so my daughters don’t have to walk for the very same reason. I’m Rae, and I am the 3-Day.”

Rae was beloved by her friends and family and loved the 3-Day more than anything else. Her friends describe her as:

Funny — she loved to laugh, always had a smile

She was the life of the party, the last one to go to bed and the first one up in the morning

She made friends everywhere and kept in touch with all of them

She was an active member of the Sigma Sigma Sigma (Tri Sigs) sorority both as an undergraduate and alumna

She played the trombone in her high school and college marching bands

She had a passion for tennis and enjoyed playing in multiple leagues and tournaments

She knew the words and dances to every song from John Denver to Kid Rock to Run DMC

She was a lifelong fan of the Pittsburgh Steelers

She was an accountant by trade but focused on family and friends

She loved holidays and events, including Halloween, the 3-Day, St Patrick’s Day, Christmas, and Easter — all the holidays were so celebrated, and she decked everything out accordingly

She loved getting ready for the 3-Day — the pinker the better!

We could pick up and go anywhere or we could sit on the couch for the entire weekend

She was very passionate about all things in her life

She was a fantastic mother, wife, friend, sister, aunt and daughter

She was a wonderful everything

“Rae fought until the very end. I went to chemo with her on September 27, 2017 and she passed away two days later on September 29, 2017,” shared Terry. “Throughout that year, as Rae’s condition worsened, we didn’t know if we were going to be able to do the walk. The short plan was that the team would still walk, Bob and Chris would crew, I would stay with Rae, and we would possibly drive from their new home in Arizona to San Diego and cheer on the walkers. Unfortunately, we didn’t make it that far but after Rae passed away, we all got ready for San Diego. It was the weekend before Thanksgiving, so we did the walk, and we all spent the holiday together that year. It was good for closure, actually.”

In 2019, Rae’s daughter Cameron spoke at the Opening Ceremony as a tribute to her mother and her husband Chris walked for the very first time. “It was the last walk Rae walked, and I wanted to walk in her footsteps. I did all 60 miles, no sweeping. It was a great healing event,” he shared. Each year since her passing, the team walks with Rae’s shoes attached to their backpacks and their banner adorned with a photo of her for all 60 miles. Since then, three teammates including Rae’s sister Dawn have been diagnosed and are survivors whose names are proudly written on the banner.

This year, Team Keeping Abreast joined together to participate in the 2024 Denver 3-Day, wearing matching jerseys as they crossed the finish line on the seven-year anniversary of Rae’s passing. As they set out on the route for Day 3, a route safety crew member was singing Good Morning, Good Morning, a song that Rae was known for singing each day. The team walked past in awe and, after reflecting, turned around to ask him for a video. Though her two daughters, Cameron and Caroline, couldn’t make it, they spent the day together and were overcome with emotion seeing the video of the crew member singing their mother’s song.

“From there, the story is pretty clear,” shared Terry, the team captain and Rae’s best friend. “We will forever be 3-Dayers. I promised Rae I would continue until there are cures, like many others scorned by the disease.”

Denver Milestone Award Winner: Rina W.

Meet Rina W., our 2024 Denver 3-Day Milestone Award Winner!

Since her first 3-Day 16 years ago, Rina has walked 18 times and has raised more than $177,000. The team that she captains, Angels 4 Angels, is part of the Lifetime Commitment Circle, having raised more than $1.6 million to date. Her Denver-based teammates have also been instrumental in the work they’ve done ensuring the success of the Susan G. Komen Denver 3-Day!

“Rina is my mentor and role model in determination, persistence, passion and kindness. Her youngest sister and my friend, Lori, died of breast cancer way too young. Through the tragedy of her loss, Angels 4 Angels was founded in 2007 and because of Rina, Angels 4 Angels continues to be a top fundraising team year after year, and she is always a top individual fundraiser. Her own battles with both uterine cancer and breast cancer have not stopped her from steadfastly working and walking to end breast cancer. I am proud to be her friend and thrilled to have Rina receive the Milestone Award in my adopted city of Denver.” —Sue R.

What was your inspiration to participate in your first Komen 3-Day???

In 2007, friends in our community decided to walk in memory of three young women who had recently lost their battles with breast cancer, one of whom was my fifty-year-old sister Lori. Our team is Angels 4 Angels, which includes all others as a fourth Angel.

What has brought you back to the 3-Day® year after year?

I have not stopped participating. My mother, children, grandchildren, and nieces have walked and/or been on the Youth Corps.

What is the secret to your 3-Day fundraising success?

Many people in my circle associate me with the 3-Day, so they continue supporting the walk financially. Additionally, I have organized Worship in Pink at my synagogue for a Shabbat program annually for 17 years. My teammates and congregants who are survivors participate and we remember those we have lost.

What’s a fun fact about you?

Things I enjoy doing are volunteering at the food bank, needle arts, travel, and spending time with my grandchildren and great-granddaughter.

What are the most important lessons you’ve learned on the 3-Day?

I have learned from the 3-Day that one person can make an impact.

Denver Crew Impact Award Winner: Carolyn H.

Meet Carolyn H., our 2024 Denver Crew Impact Award Winner!

Since her first Susan G. Komen 3-Day® 14 years ago, Carolyn has participated 27 times and has raised a lifetime total of over $20,000. Not only is she one of the most selfless individuals you may ever meet, but she does it all as a thriver with the hope of creating a future without breast cancer.

“Within the Pink Bubble there lies a special glue which makes us shine a little brighter, lifts us up a bit higher, and brings grace to everything surrounding us; this glue is Carolyn. She is the best of the Komen 3-Day, and her compassion and kindness are legendary. She is there for all of us, all the time, and manages her teams with a savvy style and a unique, joy-filled spirit. Carolyn is a true asset to everyone here, especially me, and the world truly is a better place with her in it. We are a better event with her as a part of it, and I can’t imagine my world or the Pink Bubble without her.” —Kit L.

What was your inspiration to participate in your first 3-Day®???

I was asked by my friend Mary M. to co-captain a sweep team for the Denver event in 2010. I had no idea what the 3-Day was, let alone a sweep team, but I was game to learn and looking forward to spending time with Mary. That was it; I have been hooked on the Pink Bubble ever since. The people, the atmosphere, the stories of survival as well as the tributes for those who didn’t survive.

Although I am a thriver of breast cancer, I do not do this for me or that recognition; I do it so others, including my children and yours, won’t have to walk down that same breast cancer path. I have seen in the past 25 years great strides in the diagnosis, treatment and survival rate for breast cancer and how it trickles down to other cancers as well.

What has brought you back to the 3-Day year after year?

The people and the positive culture of the 3-Day; that Pink Bubble, as they say! I have the most incredible friendships with so many people I have met along the way including walkers, crew and staff. These people are my family, (especially my “Sistas” Mary & Janet) and if they need me for anything, I’m there at their beck and call and vice versa. I call the 3-Day the great equalizer; EVERYONE at the event is there to support, cheer, hug, and give love to everyone else. There is no distinction between our many differences. It’s how we want the world to be.

What is your favorite aspect of crewing the 3-Day?

I love helping walkers and my crew team to have the best experience of their life by giving them encouragement, understanding, and a lot of fun. Knowing I brought a smile or a sense of belonging to someone’s day is the best reward and I’m perfectly happy being behind the scenes.

What is your best advice to anyone crewing the 3-Day?

Be you, let go, and remember you are in a safe place. Have fun, be silly, cry, cheer, hug, and make a new friend each day; I can guarantee they will be lifelong friendships. Again, everyone is there for you, and you are there for them. Also, keep a Sharpie in your pocket, wear closed-toed shoes and a wide mouth water bottle is your friend as well.

What’s a fun fact about you?

Anyone on my crew team knows that singing is not my hidden talent, but that doesn’t stop me. I also grew up on a farm/ranch in Nebraska, ergo I learned how to double clutch tractors, combines and grain trucks. Although I now live in Denver, my husband and I have ownership in a herd of bison in Nebraska.

What are the most important lessons you’ve learned on the 3-Day?

I’ve learned a lot about leadership and teamwork including how to be flexible and handle unforeseen circumstances. I’ve learned that each person has their own individual journey they must travel, and I must be understanding, compassionate and accepting of that journey.

“At this moment, you are probably trying to slide into the background. But let the light shine on you for a few minutes just as your light has shined brightly for the 3-Day for many years.” —John H.

Congratulations, Carolyn! We are honored to have you as part of our Pink Bubble family.