My Village: The Difference Between Surviving and Being a Survivor

By Emily H.

This is my version of Emeril’s ?BAM!” I have never loved my kitchen more than I do now! It is wallpapered with cards from friends near and far who are supporting me along my breast cancer journey. It started with the first card I received that reads, ?Today’s showers bring tomorrow’s blooms.” I taped it right above my kitchen sink, somewhere I visit often, so I would see it over and over again, reminding myself this is only a part of my story. As more and more cards came in the mail I wanted a way to keep all those positive thoughts front and center. Away it grew to my whole kitchen! Words do not do my feelings justice. I have always known I had good friends and family, but when I needed them the most, they all showed up. I am both thankful and very blessed to have a village this strong! It has truly been the difference between surviving and being a Survivor. 

Community by definition is a group of people living in the same place or having a particular characteristic in common. To me, community is an evenly balanced group of people who share passion for the same thing. Our 3-Day community is made of all types of beings (men, women, children, and pets) who share one common goal: to spread the Pink Bubble love. We all come to the table with different goals, some want to raise money, some just want to find a cure, some need support, and some just like to walk. But all in all we are a group of people (a community) that wants the world to be a little more pink. My community support means so much that without it I would fail. I know that no matter what challenge I am faced with I can turn to that community and someone will rise to the occasion and help me succeed. 

My 3-Day journey began five years ago when I registered to walk in celebration of my mother-in-law, Lori, who had just fought her own battle with breast cancer. I quickly found a passion for FUN-raising and was able to arrive to camp a Top 10 fundraiser my first year. I fell in love with the ?Pink Bubble” and all the people who make the 3-Day happen. There were so many stories, so many hugs, and so many reasons to keep coming back. I brought my mother-in-law and sister-in-law, Heather, along with me for walk two and then a best friend, Rachelle, for year three. 2020 was our ?year off” as I call it, and I was aiming high for 2021. I wanted to reach $20,000 in lifetime donations for my five-year anniversary. And I did!

But as 2021 began I was given a new challenge, being diagnosed with breast cancer myself. My diagnosis came as a huge shock as I do not hit very many risk factors. I am only 29, had all my kids young, breastfed all my babies, no family history, and am generally in good health. But as we all know cancer does not discriminate. One more reason to keep on walking. I look forward to being reunited with my ?Pink Bubble” family in the future and know that my journey as a survivor is just beginning.

If I could only share one thing with the 3-Day family it would be don’t give up! Keep on fighting, fundraising, and spreading the Pink Bubble love. The past few years have been tough on everyone for different reasons. We all learned things and took the time to grow in personal ways. But overall as a society, I think we discovered we could all use a little work! So don’t give up and keep on fighting, for yourself, your mission, and anything and everything that brings you joy! You all bring me joy and I am so thankful. 

Kathy R. H. keeps the faith going with her commitment to finding a cure | Word of the Year

For our next “Word of the Year” blog post, meet Kathy R. H. and hear why she chose faith as her word.

Tell me about your 3-Day experience.

I started walking in the 3-Day in 2004. I walked all 16 walks in the Twin Cities. In 2017, my team helped me celebrate my 20-year Cancerversary by walking the San Diego 3-Day. I continued walking in San Diego in 2018 and 2019 as well. In total, I am proud to have walked in 19 3-Day walks.

What is your 2021 word of the year

FAITH

Why is that your word of the year?

Since my cancer journey began in 1997, I have consistently been focused on Keeping the FAITH! Faith represents a commitment to positivity, gratitude, strength, and determination. While not one of us can predict what tomorrow brings, I believe that having FAITH is key to facing each day.

Why do you participate in the 3-Day? 

I participate in the 3-Day as a 23-year 2x breast cancer survivor for me, for my kids, and for my family. I participate in memory of those we have lost, in support of those who are fighting and for those who are survivors. I participate and will continue to participate as long as I am able with FAITH and HOPE that one day we won’t need to walk because we will find a CURE.

What does the 3-Day family mean to you? 

The 3-Day family, my 3-Day family, means the world to me. Each and every walker, crew member, volunteer, and staff member inspires me to be a better person. Our family not only supports each other at walk time but helps celebrate successes and provides prayers and support during challenging times. We may not all be related by blood, but we are the true definition of family!

How does your word of the year connect to the 3-Day? 

The commitment we see from our 3-Day family and our supporters proves to me that we all have FAITH that one day we will find a cure. Our FAITH in what we are doing gives us the strength to keep the fight going. We see the impact we are having, and we all have committed to never giving up!

If you could share a message with the Pink Bubble, what would it be? 

A heartfelt thank you from me to you! I see you, I hear you, I fight with you, and I CARE! Your dedication to the cause is inspiring. While life looks different right now and we have yet again been told the 3-Day events have been impacted by the pandemic, I believe our Pink Bubble is stronger than ever. We continue to show up, even from afar, to help fight this horrible disease. We come together and walk 60 miles, event after event, because we know our fundraising is making a difference. Many of us will hopefully be together in San Diego in November, but no matter what happens, please have FAITH in our cause and continue the fight.  I am filled with gratitude for each of you!

3-Day family, your faith and commitment to finding a cure constantly inspires us. What is helping you keep the faith this year?

Other Word of the Year Blog Posts

Through it all, especially in the Medical Tent, Hal G. shows PERSEVERANCE | April —Word of the Year

Tracie G. is ready to INSPIRE everyone around her in 2021 | March—Word of the Year

Carolyn P.’s Heart is Filled with Generosity in 2021 | February—Word of the Year

Riley W. Chooses To Walk Into 2021 Being GRATEFUL | January—Word of the Year

Training Walk Tours on Instagram Stories

Want to see where other people in our 3-Day family do their training walks? Check out some of our Instagram Story highlights to see where our walkers go in sunny Hawaii, scenic Alaska, and historic Washington, D.C. We even have a new surprise coming up next week in the Southwest.

These special members of the 3-Day family let us walk with them along coastal trails, on sandy beaches, by murals and memorials, and everywhere in-between.

Don’t miss these highlight reels of some of their favorite spots—some famously known to tourists and some that are special and off the beaten path. You can see even more photos and videos if you scroll back in our feed to their takeover days.

Adventure through Alaska with Alaska Julie!

Say “Aloha” to Linda in Hawaii!

Buzz around Washington, D.C. with Kathleen!

Where should we travel next? Check back next week for an adventure to the American Southwest! If you want to show us where you do your training walks and volunteer to be featured on our Instagram feed, send us an email at coaches@the3day.org.