In 2008, Rae J.’s sorority sister-turned-best friend, Terry H., signed up for the Susan G. Komen 3-Day^® after seeing an advertisement on TV. Although she didn’t know anyone at the time who had been affected by breast cancer besides Rae’s mom, a 16-year survivor, Terry knew right away that she wanted to walk. She began raising money and recruiting others to join, but it wasn’t easy. “It was very intimidating to have to raise $2,300; asking people for money was new. It was even more intimidating when I explained we had to walk 60 miles; in fact, people said I was crazy,” she shared.  

Ultimately, Terry raised the money and walked solo in D.C., crying at times when she found herself alone. However, in true Pink Bubble fashion, Terry made new connections and was so inspired that upon returning home she talked her friends into signing up, Rae included. In 2009, Team Keeping Abreast was born with five walkers and three crew members, including Terry’s dad and his wife, Terry and Rae’s husbands, Chris and Bob, Terry’s niece, her niece’s roommate, and Rae’s sister-in-law. That year, they began carrying a banner with them for each walk where they encouraged other participants to write the names of survivors and those who have been affected by breast cancer. 

“We kept our traditions going from year to year: the banner, wearing team shirts on day three, holding up our fists in team pictures, and a shoe circle. The young girls in our team video are all now walkers who, back then, couldn’t wait to be able to participate. Rae’s daughters were first in 2016, when Cameron joined as a walker and Caroline joined the Youth Corps until she was old enough to walk. Next were Rae’s nieces, Abbey and Melanie who joined Youth Corps and are now walkers.” 

Team Keeping Abreast walked every year until the Komen 3-Day was no longer offered in D.C. when they decided to crew in Philadelphia. Unsure of how to raise money and afford travel, they missed the following two years. Over time, they kept learning of more and more people who had been diagnosed and when Rae was diagnosed in December 2015, their team got their walking shoes back out and returned to Philadelphia in 2016. That year, they recruited another one of their sorority sisters from Sigma Sigma Sigma, Stacey and Rae’s sister, Dawn. “We walked again and that was the first time she was able to easily convince me to walk with them,” shared Dawn. 

In 2016, Rae walked her sixth and final 3-Day^® as a Stage IV breast cancer thriver. She gave a speech at the Opening Ceremony, saying “I have walked the 3-Day five times in honor of my mom, a breast cancer survivor and in memory of those we have lost. Who would have thought it would happen to me? Yet here I am having been diagnosed this past December with Stage IV breast cancer. So, this year, I’m also walking for myself and continue to look for the cures so my daughters don’t have to walk for the very same reason. I’m Rae, and I am the 3-Day.” 

Rae was beloved by her friends and family and loved the 3-Day more than anything else. Her friends describe her as: 

• Funny — she loved to laugh, always had a smile  

• She was the life of the party, the last one to go to bed and the first one up in the morning  

• She made friends everywhere and kept in touch with all of them 

• She was an active member of the Sigma Sigma Sigma (Tri Sigs) sorority both as an undergraduate and alumna   

• She played the trombone in her high school and college marching bands 

• She had a passion for tennis and enjoyed playing in multiple leagues and tournaments 

• She knew the words and dances to every song from John Denver to Kid Rock to Run DMC  

• She was a lifelong fan of the Pittsburgh Steelers 

• She was an accountant by trade but focused on family and friends 

• She loved holidays and events, including Halloween, the 3-Day, St Patrick’s Day, Christmas, and Easter — all the holidays were so celebrated, and she decked everything out accordingly 

• She loved getting ready for the 3-Day — the pinker the better! 

• We could pick up and go anywhere or we could sit on the couch for the entire weekend   

• She was very passionate about all things in her life 

• She was a fantastic mother, wife, friend, sister, aunt and daughter 

• She was a wonderful everything 

“Rae fought until the very end. I went to chemo with her on September 27, 2017 and she passed away two days later on September 29, 2017,” shared Terry. “Throughout that year, as Rae’s condition worsened, we didn’t know if we were going to be able to do the walk. The short plan was that the team would still walk, Bob and Chris would crew, I would stay with Rae, and we would possibly drive from their new home in Arizona to San Diego and cheer on the walkers. Unfortunately, we didn’t make it that far but after Rae passed away, we all got ready for San Diego. It was the weekend before Thanksgiving, so we did the walk, and we all spent the holiday together that year. It was good for closure, actually.”   

In 2019, Rae’s daughter Cameron spoke at the Opening Ceremony as a tribute to her mother and her husband Chris walked for the very first time. “It was the last walk Rae walked, and I wanted to walk in her footsteps. I did all 60 miles, no sweeping. It was a great healing event,” he shared. Each year since her passing, the team walks with Rae’s shoes attached to their backpacks and their banner adorned with a photo of her for all 60 miles. Since then, three teammates including Rae’s sister Dawn have been diagnosed and are survivors whose names are proudly written on the banner.  

This year, Team Keeping Abreast joined together to participate in the 2024 Denver 3-Day, wearing matching jerseys as they crossed the finish line on the seven-year anniversary of Rae’s passing. As they set out on the route for Day 3, a route safety crew member was singing Good Morning, Good Morning, a song that Rae was known for singing each day. The team walked past in awe and, after reflecting, turned around to ask him for a video. Though her two daughters, Cameron and Caroline, couldn’t make it, they spent the day together and were overcome with emotion seeing the video of the crew member singing their mother’s song. 

“From there, the story is pretty clear,” shared Terry, the team captain and Rae’s best friend. “We will forever be 3-Dayers. I promised Rae I would continue until there are cures, like many others scorned by the disease.”